Peer-led healing.
Pull-up, you’re one of us.

What does it really mean to share the mental load at home?

In this conversation, Owen Squires and I start with a simple example: changing the smoke detector battery. The task gets done, but who remembers when it needs changing, checks for spare batteries, and puts the ladder away?

From there, we talk about why “just tell me what to do” can still leave one person managing the household. Owen shares what he learned as a stay-at-home dad, how the roles we saw growing up shape our expectations, and why taking responsibility for a task means more than completing the part we were asked to do.

The takeaway isn’t that couples need to keep score. It’s that seeing the whole job can help both partners feel more supported and have a more honest conversation about what they need from each other.